Spring cold hard to stop parents park marriage marriage concept is not a child upset

"Girl, born in 1982, 1.64 meters tall and weighing 55 kilograms...", "Boys, born in 1979, 1.78 meters tall, with a monthly income of 5,000 (after tax), housing (no loans)..." Still, they can't stop their parents from worrying about their children’s “lifelong events”. The older children do not marry, it is the pain of the aunt's heart that is getting higher and higher. From "persuasion" to "urging" to "persecution," parents worry that children are bothered and the marriage problem becomes the fuse of family conflicts. Dad, Mom, are you so anxious?

I am "live" you are "looking for a feeling"

The resources of the previous generation were scarce, not so much "free mind" to consider the so-called "love", and even a lot of couples "have married first, love afterwards" and they also performed well. The adequate material conditions of the children's generation make them have a spiritual level. More demanding. Parents blame the children for being too “picky” and their children can’t stand it. Parents can't understand the marriage in their eyes, and it's so hard to put them on the children. The inconsistency of ideas makes parents anxious. "You drag on again, less and less, and you can't pick it!"

"Now children do not know that they can eat a few two dry meals!"

Liu Alu, who was silver-haired and 66 years old, sat by the park's Maxim Pavilion. His son's “personal profile” was prominently hung on a shopping cart. The 37-year-old son still has no girlfriend. "Being high-eyed, you can pick it up. You started urging him five or six years ago. You have to be beautiful," said Aunt Liu, excitedly.

"You said that we were married at that time and we were not good at drawing pictures. We can live. Now we can say that there are so many objections. Picking and picking, if you are not satisfied, you will not be able to do so. How can you be so perfect?" Auntie’s words made some onlookers nodded frequently. Uncle Guo told reporters with deep feeling that his daughter was 33 years old and he had spent four or five years with each other, but he never saw it. “Some children think we have good conditions and all aspects are very good. When she asks her to disagree, she says 'no feeling' and 'not sincerity.' This is a reason. To me, it is an unpromising attitude. Ba brain!"

"I'm not a good speaker, including my own children, a lot of older people do not know that they can eat a few two dry rice!" Liu Aunt sentence with a "critique" summary has been a lot of parents resonate.

"I just wanted to find a close eye, and I couldn't touch my liking."

Li Shuangwen has his own "basic information" at the foot. He is one of the few people who have blinded him and is particularly prominent among a group of uncles and aunts. Although this year is 39 years old, he seems to be at most 30 in his early days. He is very spirited. Coupled with the "two properties," the hard target, Li Shuangwen is highly favored by young women's parents. He and his parents who talked and demanded contact information were Never cut off.

In the face of reporters' inquisitive questions, Li Shuangwen reiterated, "I just wanted to find a 'margin'." This requirement sounds simple and careful analysis is not easy to achieve. Firstly, he looks like he likes it. Secondly, his posture must conform to his aesthetics. He must also talk to him in conversation... “Before and after six years, I didn’t fancy it.” Li Shuangwen has a smile in his smile. Helpless.

My mother died and her father was nearly eighty. Li Shuangwen felt guilty to his parents. “My father was in my hometown in Hunan and he was anxious every year. He said that if you don’t get married, don’t come back to see me. I’m sorry for him, but I can’t do it anymore. It's too hard for me to get in touch with my own favorite. I think it's been a long time since I was alone.

Education “baptism” takes a long time to get married

In the past three years, the average age of first marriage in Beijing has reached 27 years old, which is a bit higher than the 23 years old 20 years ago. Social development requires higher academic qualifications, which means longer time for education and later work to get married. After the “baptism” of undergraduate and even master's and doctor's degrees, the generation of children is five or six years later than their fathers. Just after graduating from school, it is the “older youth” that parents do not allow. If you don't take the other half from campus and you can't find suitable objects in your work within a short period of time, your parents simply have to be "impatient" - "When you were such a big man, I gave birth to you! "Yeah Mom, you didn't go to college again!"

"I haven't talked about it all the time, and I don't worry about it."

The first time he participated in "Park Blindness," Auntie, 53, still looks very young. His son's "Dr." title was marked with a blue pen and attracted the attention of many parents. See the reporter asked, she is very happy, "little girl, you look for yourself?" The reporter shook his head quickly, explained that just feel curious, 28-year-old boys are not big, why parents are so anxious?

"The next year he graduated from Ph.D., and he couldn't wait to see what he was doing. The children were very introverted. They had fewer girls in the lab and they were looking for classmates who had little hope of hope. They had to rely on me and his dad for Zhang Luo. "Aunt Lee pointed to a gentleman wearing a dark green cotton suit standing on the opposite side of the stairs." It was his father. I heard that Zhongshan Park had a baby blind date. Both of us came here today for the first time."

“The children have been studying and haven’t talked about them. They are so big. Don’t worry about what?” Auntie Li excitedly showed reporters the “achievements”. “I wrote four calls on this little cell phone. Two, go back and contact and arrange arrangements for the children."

"Don't use old people's 'timetables' in their childhood

Qingyuan Liu (female 25 years old, Master of Science and Technology, Shaanxi University of Technology, Grade 3):

My mother often "stimulates" me saying that when you are so big, I have already given birth to you. Really annoying, she did not go to college. After she graduated from secondary school, she came out to work. He always told me more than anything. Can I marry and have children in school?

When parents sometimes worry about it, they don't look at what time it is. We read it all the way up. Can they work the same way they were when they were 17 or 8 years old? I was only 25 years old and I couldn't talk about "old age". In the past two years, I was anxious for her. I always asked me to find one at school. Our design professional boys are inherently small and inappropriate. She also asked the leaders of my internship unit and my colleagues to help introduce them. He also asked around and asked if I could not marry him!

I would like to say to my parents that don’t use the “timetable” of their generations to go to the children's suits, be sure to compare them with those who have had the same degree, and haven’t seen any graduates of the graduate school to marry and have children.

Everything loves to pass on pressure "forced marriage"

Emotional expert Muzi Li said, “Marriage is like a threshold. Everyone is living for themselves before marriage. After marriage, especially with children, they are all living for their children.” The “love comparison” of the Chinese is born. When a child was younger than when he was a student, he grew older than a job. When he entered a marriage age, he was better than someone’s daughter-in-law. Her daughter’s daughter was married well... If people’s children had a good return, their children were still “bare”. Relatives and friends simply "can't lift their heads". At that time, when the children were married, they were considered to have moved out of the "stone in the chest."

"My son has no object, it seems he doesn't have the ability"

From the entrance to the east gate of the Temple of Heaven Park, Aunt Fang, 59, and two aunts of similar age are afflicting the "disobedient" children. Seven Star Stones gathered dozens of parents who chatted over and over, but they did not want to go. "You walked in a circle. Hey, it's useless. The child didn't want to be blind. You just found him the right one. He didn't see. What are you doing?" Aunt Fang said helplessly.

"I have an idea not to let us manage. You say more, he is anxious to you. I came to the park and I had to look at him. I also knew that there was no way to push this, but when you looked at someone who had a grandson, you could not be envious. “Fang Aunt frowned.” Our two children in the building were married last year, both younger than my children, and made me even more anxious. When I saw them, I walked around and I was not happy to mention this to me. As if my son had no object, he did not have the ability." Aunt Fang told reporters that strolling in the park is not so much a "blind date" to the children as it is to chat with old friends who are in the same condition. Pointing to the next two aunts, Aunt Fang said, "The children in their homes are not obedient. We can talk to one."

"Mom, why let others influence you? Can you live for yourself?"

Zhang Liang (Men Ningxia 26-year-old news agency reporter):

When you talk about my mother, I'm angry now. My family is basically married to such a big one, and some of them still have children. Since I graduated to the present half of the year, she has followed the magic, and every time I say less than five sentences, I pull my marriage. The question is who I am going to end up with. I just make up for it. After two years of divorce, which is more or less?

My mother went out for a walk and came back to look pretty. Then she said, "Whoever's kid is married, and everybody has grandchildren. You see, you don't get too close." She said that I am selfish and I don't understand the pains of my parents. I really can't move my grandfather out. My grandfather was all 87. The last time I started talking directly from the history of the suffering of our family, and asked me to take up the family's responsibility... I'm going crazy. This is simply soft violence!

In fact, my mother understands truth and knows that she must be in love with her. She is unable to stand up to the pressure of the people around her. She always compares with other people. Then she doesn’t calm down, it’s just to trouble me... I just want to say, Mom, why? Other people influence you, can you live for yourself?

Scenes

The Maxim Pavilion at Zhongshan Park is full of three-story buildings that are full of objects for the children's “identification”, roughly no less than 500 people. The usual practice is to list the "hardware" section of the child's own child on a piece of paper, and then write down the requirements of the other party, intervene and wait for the inquirer. Those who are more confident about their child's appearance will also attach photos, live photos, art photos, performance photos, etc. If you do not want to prematurely “exposure” your child’s information, you will walk around in circles and “see” which is more desirable. Then go up and ask in detail, and talk about it...

At the Seven Stars of the Temple of Heaven, the parents of the "dating party" always come and go, and the number of people is stable at around 40 to 50. The scale is relatively small, and it is relatively quiet. Three or five parents form a small circle and can talk more and more for a while. The new parents will stand silently next to the parents who have already talked. After listening to the basic situation of the boys and girls, they will then “insert” in due course. “Look at photos” is often a step afterwards. The two parents took out a small photo from their pockets. They were satisfied with each other and left contact information.

Many parents are out in the afternoon is the afternoon, the low temperature does not affect their enthusiasm. Looking at the uncle's anxious and anticipation of the eyes and the wind-blown gray hair, people just want to sigh, "Poor world parents."

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